In some of the places I've lived in the UK there were plenty of those parents and kids about, but equally I knew (some!) friends and family who had perfectly lovely well behaved children. I just assumed that I'd make damn sure I brought up similarly lovely offspring.
'They' say it's not easy being a parent, 'they' say a lot of things though and I think I may have not been listening to all of them. Whilst pregnant, and even before I read probably every childcare book in the library, I like instructions and it all seemed reasonably straight forward, Super Nanny was not going to come even close - I had it all under control.
Except I didn't, I even thought we'd escaped the worst of the clichéd 'terrible twos' but somewhere in the last couple of weeks they have snuck up and bit me on the bum.
I now find myself with a crazy 'almost' 3 year old who understands what you say and deliberately does the opposite. He shouts, bangs, and throws toys despite requests not too and warnings of punishment. He needs more entertainment that I can give him and I just run out of ideas to keep him occupied. Every day he asks where we are going, or what we are going to do and I just have no idea! Being 5 months pregnant is not helping - I'm having trouble lifting him in and out of his car seat or carrying him when he refuses to co-operate so going out is becoming difficult already.
He does have his moments and can be very polite and sweet and will often play on his own for surprisingly long periods of time absorbed with this engines and train tracks, but when he goes you really notice it! I'm totally stumped as to how to deal with it, taking toys away has been working up till now but I don't actually have anywhere to take them all away to and he realises this. Smacking (yeah, whatever - I was smacked in moderation and I'm fine *ahem*) will stop him doing something but I'd like to not have to do it for every little thing!
Maybe reward charts are the answer, it worked very well for potty training but I don't want to keep giving him stuff as he has more than enough already, the more he gets the worse I think he becomes as it is.
I realise that a large part of them problem comes from the fact that for the first time in 8 months, Daddy is not around, and not only does he miss him he knows that its a lot harder to mess around with him! He knows I can't carry him and 'fight' him like Aaron can too and that because 'Mummy has a baby in her belly' its much harder for me to do stuff. Unfortunately (in this instance) he's not stupid and realises he can play on these things.
In many ways I'm dreading the arrival of number 2, although I'm trying to hope that by then we may have entered a slightly different phase which with any luck may be easier. But in reality I think I need to find a way to discipline him now and not hope it passes, I refuse to have badly behaved children I'm just a bit stuck as to how to achieve this!